Woman asks to be set up with coworker's brother, he gives her a harsh dose of reality: 'She thinks I'm shaming her for her appearance and personality'

Should you ever mix your dating life with your professional life?

People meet people at work. It's a fact of life. It's one of the most popular ways to meet someone in this day and age. And you can't help it, that's who you spend your time around. You're bound to pick up some interest in somebody at some point. Or maybe work simply expands your world, and you meet the love of your life because they happen to be tangentially related to your job. This is not a bad thing, or something to be ashamed of. It's normal and natural, but it does need to be handled delicately. When things go wrong, they might go wrong very badly, and you'll end up out of luck in both the love and work departments. This is why some people want to avoid this mix entirely.

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What's truly difficult is when you get embroiled in something you didn't mean to. You weren't trying to kick up drama, but you ended up in it somehow. This can happen to be the best of us. Maybe you have a coworker who is constantly implicating you in their schemes despite you doing your best to avoid them. This can be hard to finagle because you don't want to upset your coworker, but you also don't want to create unnecessary strife in the workplace. But that's what happened to this man, whose coworker put him in a difficult spot.
It's not against the law to be asked to be set up with someone. It's your right to do. But you have to know that the second they get cagey about it, you have to bow out. If they're not immediately enthusiastic about the idea, it's probably for good reason, and you should back off if you can help it at all. They're probably trying to spare you an awkward conversation, and it's better if you heed their advice. But the woman in this story wouldn't take no for an answer and put everyone in a weird place because of it. Read on for the full details and see what commenters had to say about it.
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Am I in the wrong for shaming my coworker for her looks and personality?

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